Ohhhhhh Kay! First I must apologize to my regular readers for being MIA the past months!! I’ve been busy growing a human and now I’m a mom to two little men! no.1 is now 2.5 yrs old and no.2 is a new born. It’s been a few weeks of post C-section healing and getting to know our new babes.
As the totem pole reorganizes its self I’m working on my new role as a mom of two. I have this impression that all other stay at home parents have learnt how to tango with two little ones except for me. Moments of self doubt food my mind at 12:30am 2am 4am and then at 6am the day begins. Of course it’s ridiculous that I think I’m the only one who struggles! lol!! Who do I think I am anyway?! Hopfully other parents find peace knowing there are plenty of others up in the night doing the same thing they are. My mantra for coping is “It’s all temporary“. My husband reminded me of that the other day. So I slapped on some progesterone cream, repeated my mantra and got to mothering. Mothering with more than one kiddo truly is a dance. I’m sure if I wore a GoPro camera for a day my erratic “dance” steps would look something like a mix of tap, tango and hip hop, complete with booty drops necessary to retrieve a dropped receiving blanket while I nurse my son with the other arm. I ache for the old days where a village really did raise a child. I picture a time when the community and extended family came together to prepare food for the family and let the new mother focus on nursing the newborn. Now a days the stay at home mom or dad seem to be going at it alone for the most part. Isolation is no place for a mom and her new babes. So when things get hairy at my house I call on a girlfriend close by for an intervention or I head to the playground and let no.1 run a muck with other ones his age while I nurse no.2.
FOOD!!! The secret to mastering meals is to cook once and get 2-4 meals out of that one dish!! Pinterest has been my go-to for meal ideas. Search crockpot, casserole or one dish meals and you’ll find an abundance of options.
HOUSEWORK!!! I tackle this beast by running my dishwasher daily, doing a load of laundry once a day and folding it when the kids are sleeping. I’ll only do 1 major cleaning task a day….say vacuum, clean the washroom or dust…and that’s on a good day. Sometimes I place taking a shower ahead of cleaning it. And somedays I don’t make my bed until noon because I’ve been busy cooking that day or changing 5 more poop diapers than anticipated while getting barfed on. I just roll with the punches and say “it’s all temporary”.
Amongst all the household duties I find time for the more important moments. I spend quality time with my kids. Talking, playing, exploring the outdoors or just snugging up close to watch a movie. Even the sweet, cherished moments are temporary because kids grow quick! Here’s to enjoying the tango 🙂