pre-mother thoughts

I’ve been reflecting on the time before I was a mom.   Thoughts would run through my head about others close to me that were already parents.  I’d observe their parental tactics and make mental notes about what seemed to work for them and what I agreed with.  On the flip side I’d also make a mental note about what didn’t work or what I didn’t agree with for my own.  Ooops!!! I just fell in to the ethnocentrism category aka judgement!  Perhaps a lesson in cultural relativism was in order for me!  What I needed was the experience of becoming a mother my self so to learn the trials and triumphs of raising a little one.  Going into motherhood I had a list of what I was going to do.  I’m in love with our planet so cloth diapers made sense to me.  I’m keen on amazing nutrients so breast milk made sense to me.  A healthy, active body for the benefit of baby and I also made sense to me and so on.  It didn’t take long for my “optimal parent” list to be drastically altered.  I was getting schooled by my own life experiences!  I can’t think of a better way to learn than being thrown right in!  Any parent can attest to going from 0-100 km/h within seconds of having a little one.  Advice…BUCKLEUP…and enjoy the ride:)

Simple But Significant (VII)

Simple words that made my heart smile:). Thanks for sharing this “The Better Man Project”

The Better Man Project ™


Look me in the eye,

What can you see?

Do you see my past?

Or do you see me.

Look me in the eye,

Do you see someone full?

Who is always competing,

With his potential.

– Evan Sanders

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Baby swim lessons…I was THAT mom!

Infant swim lessons!! What a great way to spend time with my little one.  My excitement is bubbling over for our first swim.  M is ready to go.  His swim diaper and trunks are on, he’s fed and napped.  I whip out my bikini to get myself ready and I hear ” you’re gonna be that mom huh?”.   Bahahahaha!  I hadn’t even thought about appropriate swimming apparel for myself.  Is a bikini not ok??  But it’s all I have.  It is a social no-no to wear a two piece to the public indoor pool??  Perhaps switching to the ol’ one piece and kissing bikini days goodbye is common new mom knowledge?!  So I did what any gal in my position would do.  I put on my bikini and went to the pool.  I was comfortable and happy.  Baby M didn’t seem to mind and either did anyone else.  All the other moms were warm and welcoming.  We played water games for 30 mins and successfully completed our first infant swim lesson.

So I was THAT mom for a split second when I allowed my self to worry about wearing a two piece to the pool.  There are far greater concerning moments in life.  My greatest concern that day was making sure I was the best swim partner for my babe.